Take a look at what Osho says: “Try to be simple in everything. If you are simple, you can not tell a lie because a lie can never be simple. The very nature of a lie has to be complex. Only truth can be simple.”
When they meet me, some of my clients say “Hakan, I have a lot to share with you”. They get really surprised when I tell them, “Please summarize it to me in only three sentences” They might even get a little mad at me that I am taking away the pleasure of them amplifying their sad stories. However, they are not aware of this: The most important reason why they are not able to see the solution is that they are drowned in the details of their long story.
Sometimes I ask my clients only yes or no questions. They give me longwinded answers. I listen to them attentively. Instead of answering with a simple yes or no, they tell a lengthy story. At the end, once they are done with their answers, there is not a yes or no.
Sometimes I leave them alone so that they could express themselves freely. They answer by skipping from one subject to the other. They are usually unable to remember the question when I unexpectedly stop them and ask “What was the Question?” The ones who answer usually remember the question that has been directed couple questions earlier vs. the one that has just been asked.
Just like it is not easy to find an item in a messy room with so many things scattered inside; it is not easy to find the solution inside a mind which is full of so many different stories. For this reason, I encourage my clients to simplify. Once they simplify, the realness (reality) starts showing itself and it becomes clearer.
Whenever I start hearing long answers, Osho’s words above come to my mind. “The truth is simple. When I encourage my clients to think simple, the mud around the reality gets cleaned up and the solution becomes evident like daylight.
I observe that people who are confused ask themselves similar questions that don’t have answers. In my opinion, these disempowering questions have two types. The first one is “Oh Lord, why is it me?” type “why” questions. Second one is “I wonder if I did wrong?” type “I wonder if” questions. Once we replace these questions with empowering ones such as “What is going on here?” or “So, what can I do next?” they start heading towards simplicity and solution.
In conclusion, if you want to get to know yourself, start simplifying. Eliminate all the unnecessary things in your life, including the needless questions in your mind and the needless stuff in your house.